“Say Yes ! and be ready each time to give to the world to have #Abundancefactor in your life”
He is an obedient boy and timid too. He is everyone’s darling and always said YES to them. He has many close friends and his boss in office appreciate him for his performance and PR skills.. Few of his colleagues who never got performance appraisals like him, always calls him #Minion. And these same people are also not his foes. Because, he always said #YES to them too and have been always doing small little efforts for them.
You know someone like ‘him’ for sure. As per Indian tradition we are fostered to obey our elders and to love younger ones and meet others expectations. Those who keep it with them for longer times mostly succeed in whatever they do and those who left it at some point of time in their life, they mostly have to struggle a little.
During my corporate stint, I once came across this quote on a wall clock which said, “learn to say No to save time” and the other one was an influential person i met,who always said No before a sentence !
Both the incident got engraved in my subconscious mind and instead of nicely disagreeing to someone i picked up the strategy of saying no, until i came across this psychological study-
“If I were to put you into a fMRI scanner—a huge donut-shaped magnet that can take a video of the neural changes happening in your brain—and flash the word “NO” for less than one second, you’d see a sudden release of dozens of stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters. These chemicals immediately interrupt the normal functioning of your brain, impairing logic, reason, language processing, and communication,” write Newberg and Waldman, authors of Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversation Strategies to Build Trust, Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intimacy.
When we say YES or use optimistic language our frontal lobe is stimulated which is responsible for The function of the frontal lobe involves the ability to project future consequences resulting from current actions, the choice between good and bad actions (or better and best) (also known as conscience), the override and suppression of socially unacceptable responses, and the determination of similarities and differences between things or events.
Now you know, use YES and avoid No !