Higher expectation=higher performance

“Higher expectations from others usually push them to an increase in their performance”

You always perform the best when others show trust and confidence in you. You often take special pains to meet high expectations (well communicated) of others. The rule works wonders. Today I am sharing another story about TRUST with you. On the basis of this, there have been many experiments conducted to see the actual results. You too may try this 🙂 🙂

Once there was a sculptor named Pygmalion in Cyprus. He was very rich but had no companion. Due to his ugly breakups with women, he hated all women but always wished god for a perfect woman of his dreams. Who he would love for eternity.

One day, an idea struck his mind and he started to sculpt a beautiful woman of his desires. He started carving the sculpture in Ivory. It had beautiful almond shaped eyes and a rich smile on an oval face. Its body looked sylphlike. And when the sculpture got complete it looked like a real woman, you could only realise that it’s a statue if you would touch and feel the coldness of the ivory.

Pygmalion fell in love with his creation and started to pretend himself as its husband. He even bought precious stone studded rings for its hands and silk clothes to clad it. He fell so much in love with that sculpture that he will talk to it for hours. People of his community have now started labeling him as a crazy man.

Then came, “Aphrodisia” the day of goddess Aphrodite (Greek Goddess of love, beauty and procreation). Everybody was celebrating the festival and praying to goddess. Pygmalion also wished from the goddess to give him a wife like his sculpture. The goddess heard and accepted his prayers and by seeing his expectations & trust in the prayers, she couldn’t find any one like the statue, but ultimately had to infuse life in that sculpture only.

When Pygmalion got back home late in the night, before sleeping, he kissed the statue as it was his daily ritual. But you know! to his surprise, the statue came to life and it brought tears to Pygmalion’s eyes. He thanked goddess for the desired life partner and they lived happily ever after. You see, “Higher expectations from others usually push them to an increase in their performance”.

Wonders of Being Grateful

“Always be grateful for what you get, you never know when these will pay you back in a big way”

This is a true story.

Neeraj, a boy from a middle class family was very excited to get his first job after completion of his graduation in Journalism. He was a trainee with one of the production house in Gurgaon and agreed to work for the company on meagre Rs.5000/- p.m. Because, he being a painstaking person was keen on learning skills than earning money.

He daily used to travel 80Kms to and fro his office (by bus or taking lifts from others). Neeraj was somehow managing his expenses by borrowing money from his family and friends to meet his daily expenses and promised them all to settle when he will get his first pay check.

One day, a friend of Neeraj called up asking for return of his Rs.500/- due to some emergency and Neeraj hung up promising to return the money by evening. Now, like every kid, Neeraj’s last resort was his mom who loaned him some money to pay off his credit and meet other weekly incidentals.

Neeraj is a believer of the power of God. He starts his each day by thanking God for five things he is grateful for. That day also, he thanked God for the money he could arrange in time and moved out of his home for office.

That afternoon, Neeraj felt unwell in office and left early for home. He took a bus to his nearest station. When he reached his town, he could not find any ‘auto rikshaw’ to go home. So he took ride from a passing by biker. The moment Neeraj sat on the bike, he felt something is missing and started groping for the Rs.500 note which he had to give to his friend. Quickly realising the Rs.500 was not in his pocket he stopped the biker and got down in the middle of nowhere to rush back to the place from where he took the bike ride to again look for the lost Rs.500 note.

While walking back, Neeraj was feeling very sad and he couldn’t find the Rs.500 note. He was now doing the calculation of how he is going to pay all his credit and was annoyed of his negligence. The money was very important for Neeraj and he was asking a question to himself, “why does it happens with me”.

Clueless as how to handle the situation, he was walking towards his home. Lost in his own sad world. Suddenly he noticed a crowd in the middle of the road. He rushed towards the crowd and to his astonishment, the same biker had met an accident and was unconscious lying on the road mired totally red. The view of the scene popped Neeraj’s heart out and he started to tremble with fear.

Neeraj, just could not understand anything and left the place. When he reached home and told the whole story to his Mom, he and his family was thankful for the Rs.500 note, which disappeared from his pocket just to save his life.

“Always be grateful for what you get, you never know when these will pay you back in a big way”

Never ignore your inner calling

 

You often follow practices plonked by unknown others without even understanding the reason behind it because sometimes the curious beings are misunderstood as confused in our society 😉
Let me tell you a small story about why, “You should never ignore your inner calling”

Once a scientist carried out this experiment; He kept five monkeys in a closed cage and had put a ladder in the centre of the cage. And on the top of the ladder he had placed 5 bananas. When one of the monkey, noticed the bananas, he tried to climb the ladder, but the scientist shot a gush of water on the monkey to stop him from climbing up for the bananas. The monkey got scared with the water attack and went back to join the group. The scientist now punished the whole group of monkeys for the act of one monkey and sluiced all of them with water.

After a while, they started feeling hungry and this time the second monkey tried to get hold of the bananas, but the scientist threw him back too by the gush of water. And once again, all the monkeys were punished for the second monkey’s act by being drenched with water.

A little later, third monkey made an attempt, but this time. Even before scientist came to action, all the other monkeys pulled him back and beaten him up. By now, all the monkeys were scared of getting soaked in water.

When the scientist saw this, he took one of the monkeys out of the cage and sent a new monkey to join the group. The new monkey had no idea of what had happened. And when he saw the bananas, he started to reach out for them. The other monkeys pulled him down too and started to beat him up. That monkey didn’t understood a bit of it and thought that these bananas are just not supposed to be eaten.

Some time later, the scientist replaced another monkey of the old group with second new monkey. And, this new monkey too tried to reach out for the bananas but got beaten up by 3 old monkeys + one new monkey, who actually was never punished by the scientist and was just following others for “no one is supposed to eat the bananas”.

The experiment ended when the scientist had replaced all the monkeys of the old group with the new ones but no one now tried to reach out for the bananas 😉

You know the world around you sometime act like that ‘stopping group’, it doesn’t let you follow your inner calling because someone else may have failed at it. There is so much of noise around, that you just don’t concentrate on the inner calling. And by listening to others opinion you do agreement with yourself of not trying your skill to get what you want.
“You can’t hear to others voice when your ears are plugged with high volume of a music track. But you know with a little focus, you can listen to your own voice even after that loud music”
Try it out and listen to what your inner calling is telling you to do even after there are many outsiders who are pulling you back. You may just reach on the top of the ladder by trying again & again.

Charity returns

Once upon a time, there used to live a King named Akaya. Who was egregious to levy heavy taxes on the people of his kingdom & building up his own boons.

He was always finding ways to take out the hard-earned money from his subjects pockets. One of his trick actually made him learn a lesson 😉

Once he announced in his kingdom that he plans of digging a pond packed with Milk, which would be used to feed poor and needy people of his society. In this regard he had ordered all the rich men of the kingdom to pour one glass of milk in the pond every night, so that the pond will be filled by morning and further the milk can be distributed amongst the ones in exigencies. The king had also promised to pour a jug of milk by himself in the pond, so as to set an example in front of others.

In the first night, Akaya went and poured his part of jug of milk in the pond followed by others in the kingdom.

The next morning when everybody came to witness the act of charity and kindness. It came up as shocking and inglorious act when the pond was filled with water instead of milk. What happened was that every rich individual of the kingdom, including Akaya, poured water into the pond, while taking advantage of the night and thinking that since others would be pouring milk; therefore, his part of water will not be detected. And this exposed king’s as well as his other subjects and all of them was standing ashamed.

Akaya begged forgiveness from all his subjects and promised to never set a wrong example in front of others. He promised to diligently follow the practice for the needy section of his kingdom and learnt the lesson of Charity begins from you and you can’t pose it on other if you yourself is not doing it.

The end to this small but relevant story marks the beginning of my personal experience, where i came across this small NGO (AID, Faridabad), which helps underprivileged kids to get basic education to get into the normal schooling system. And simultaneously helping them to actually get admission into schools in their locality. I have decided to be a part of the organization and contribute with the skills and time i have. When are you planning to give back to society. And realize, “Charity begins from you and you can’t pose it on other if you yourself is not doing it”.

You are a star for many, “Rise & Shine the world needs your help”.

As per a source, the charity made earns you more satisfaction and lasting happiness then buying materialistic things, even if it’s an iPhone 😉